Purpose of Conflict?:D
This few days, i have been thinking about what good is there, if two parties are involved in a conflict, yet both want to make their stands and ensure that they win, but in the end, both will end up as losers, neither are winners, but instead, the relationship turn sour as a result.
It's always true that our human reaction when faced with an agrument, is to return back the 'favour' and bullzoze our way to win the agrument. When i was small, i always got the tendency to shout back at my parents, agrue back with my friends, quarrel with my brothers and ensure that i will end up the winner no matter what, but as i grow up, i realise that this kind of process is so tiring.
Why is it better to be a giver than a taker?A taker will ensure that all the things that he is doing will benefit him and only him and will go to whatever it takes to achieve what he wanted. Yet as u think about it, won't he be so tired?Always worrying about everything; worried that he might not get what he want; worried that people will take advantage of him; worried when he need to take action again in order to gain back what he had lost.
But a giver has no worries for him nor to the people he is giving. Yet to him, giving is always a pleasure, a lifestyle that he upkeeps and no matter what happens, others benefits comes above his, and he gains satisfaction in being a blessing to others.
It's true we find it hard to forgive or even love ppl who have hurt us or disappoint us in one way or another, yet, in the bible it says in Matthew 5, even the unchurch also know how to love the people that he likes. So if we do the same, what difference are we from them?Jesus words to us are that we need to love our neighbours and our ENEMIES, loving them, praying for them, forgiving them and even going the extra mile to love them. And that is the unconditional love that we have from God, and we in turn need to share it with others.
Merely just obeying the commandment is never enuf, we do not do it just for the sake of doing it, but obedience is an act of submission, and that means you obey it out of reverence for God but u also make it as a lifestyle in order to be a blessing to others.
I do admit that sometimes i feel very frustrated and angry at a particular person that i feel like 'strangling' him, yet, after so many experiences of anger outbursts, i realise the best way to live out what God has told us to do is to really lift the person up in prayers. The more this person has irritated me, the more i pray for him and committ him to God and after that, i asked God for the dose of compassion so that i can be like Him, willing to love and forgive everybody regardless of the things that they have done to us.
Forigveness is always unconditional, and it's always love that can touched a person life and make their dreams soar again. To people right now, it may seem that i am a weakling by not fighting back and pushing my way through, but if that is so, what are those prisoners, deliquents, drug abusers who have turn over a new leaf as a result of the constant love and perversverence that is shared to them despite of their ungrateful attitudes last time?
Now it may seem as a weakling, but as we begin to take a step back and look at the great picutre, we will know that by being meek, loving and forgiving, we will end up being the ones who are able to impact the lives of people out there who are desperately in need of love and forgiveness. So why not?Instead of acting the usual way we are, why not discipline ourselves to be the ones that God has intended us to be?Though it never easy, but if we are not weary while doing good, God will bring the harvests in due season.
1:31 AM
Monday, March 23, 2009
royston!!
